Infertility

Plain and simple: there are no reasons nor explanations for my (our) infertility.

Nic and I did not choose infertility. Our infertility is not a result of postponing the start of our family "as soon as we're done with school," "once we have a good job," or "once we are out of debt," etc.

Nor are we infertile for poor life-style choices. We are both healthy individuals. And just because you tell me to add certain things to my diet (that I already include anyways) or stop being stressed or exercise more (or not as often) does not mean that I will get pregnant.

Adoption is a not a quick and easy fix to our infertility woes. If anything, the journey to adoption was just as emotional as the roller coaster of infertility. And just because we adopt does not mean we will forget about our infertility. We are however grateful for the Lord's guidance we felt in our decision to adopt.

Infertility is more common then people realize. Statistically it affects 1 in 8 couples. At Nic's place of employment there are eight couples (including ourselves). Two other couples have infertility problems.

Just because we do not have kids (yet) does not mean that we do not want them. Jokingly telling us "Are you sure want kids? You can have mine." Does not make me laugh.

The one thing I am grateful for that infertility has given me is the opportunity to build a stronger relationship with my dear hubby. He is a wonderful, outstanding man. We had a very strong relationship from the beginning, but going through the ups and downs of infertility caused us to rely on each other even more. He was my foundation, light, and hope when I was in my darkest hour.

Infertility will always be a part of me. But I will not let it define me.